Fear: how does it develop?

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What is fear? According to Cambridge dictionary it is: "An unpleasant emotion or thought that you have when you are frightened or worried by something dangerous, painful, or bad that is happening or might happen." 


Fear is an important innate human emotion that aims at protecting him from any threat or harm. today humans are afraid of failing at tests, not getting a job and even worse not be able to live a luxury life. Fear of not living a successful life is justifiable but what is this fear of not being good enough? Of not doing as good as others.

Why are we afraid of such trivial things? It is certainly because our society has programmed our brains this way. Where its has become important to earn in 6 figures annually in order to be seen as successful person and . 

Right from the beginning parents start comparing their kids with other kids and put fears in their minds that society won't accept them if they are different or unsuccessful. Little attention is given to healthy mental development.  They expect their children to be all-rounders which more than anything pressurizes kids even more as it appears to them that no matter what they do, their parents won't be happy with them. With time they start disregarding their talents and when they fail to please their parents. They not only lose their talent but also becomes less interested routine activities. They begin to develop the fear of rejection.

The things their parents tell them during their childhoods, gradually heaps up in the back of their minds and with time it comes out as fear. People start being afraid failing at life, upsetting their loved ones. They lose confidence. And repeatedly try to please other even with cost of their own happiness. Leading to unhappy and depressed minds and ultimately unhappy minds.

Its not even parents fault. Its the current social norms that have severed human relations and human minds.

To every good human reading this: Know that no success comes without failure. Start accepting your mistakes, own them, learn from them and try again.

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