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  All your life you kept on believing people hate you. They dont see you worthy. They don't welcome you when you're trying so hard to fit in. When it was not them all along. It was always you who didn't like yourself. YOU, who didn't see yourself worthy.   So you worked twice as hard as others, trying to please others because that was the only way you'd ever please yourself. You thought if you could make people happy, you could be happier yourself. When all it did was cost you your peace and happiness. Giving a piece of you a day everyday gave noting in return but a space so big even a galaxy wont fill in.  BUT was it worth it? Was it worth losing yourself. Because it ended up wounding you  anyways. If anything it cut you even deeper. Hurt you even more. So nobody was happy in the end, not you, not them, noone. You never chose yourself. Never loved yourself. When it always had to be you. You had to love you  you had to choose you. So how were you ever gonna be ha

What's holding you back? A little promise made a long time ago? A promise made by someone who probably doesn't even remember it himself? Someone who has shoved you off the hill a million times for their own convenience. You were there, when they chose to unsee your existence. Oh how it broke your heart, as you watched that once so familiar pass you by. and that little amount of time you felt so far apart. A little tear swimming in the bounds of your eyes, cause you were so afraid of someone seeing it. Your weary heart trying to keep with the erratic breathing of chest. You knew them as much as they claimed you didn't. and you loved them even more than that.  How you longed to go back in the time just to live those little moments full of happiness once again and how you wished to relive them over and over again and how you prayed you could have avoided the situation that ended in them leaving you altogether. How you cursed yourself for all the wrong in you. How much you w

So you say, you loved them and so you wanted to protect it from all the bad that had happened to you. You wanted them to not scar in the spots as you. You didn't want them to shed tears on their pillows every night. But that made you grow, didn't it. Thats what matured you. Thats what made you in the person you are today. And don't you think you would most likely repeat the same mistakes in again, given the chance?   Then why do you think halting someone's most needed experience in the process of growth is loving? Do we all not break our hearts once or twice? Do we all not yearn for something so bad, something that we end up losing? Do we all not get tired every night after a long day of running after things that are never ours? Do we all not cry every night or a night every week or month over the things that made our hearts ache? But then did we not learn from it? Did we not learn how to heal our hearts? Did we not learn how to give up our most precious belongings for

Did you say yes to a 'little job' again when you were yourself quite busy and didn't wanna upset your friend, but then that little thing turned out to be 2 days worth of a job and made you lag behind on a lot of work? But when you asked the same person you ran an errand for you, seeing that they were free, they denied. Did it hurt you? But is that their fault? NO.  They had every right to put their comfort before everything and so do you! You should also learn to say it sometimes when you need to. In order to please others you somehow lose your individuality and in the process it also normalizes for others to boss you around. And when you have finally had it and say No it is gonna upset them because up until then they would have become accustomed to you agreeing with them. Now, no-one is asking you to be rude and say NO and disagree with whatever you hear. But contradict with fair sense to what is wrong or what you think is right. Or when you thin

Why Do You Care About What Others Think? Every day there is a constant thought on every person's mind, consciously or unconsciously, how are people perceiving me? How do they perceive me? when someone stares at you hair for too long. you have this constant urge to fix them. when someone tell you we have gained weight you would constantly take a look at ourselves in the mirror.  Any human would do anything to get appraised by others. Wearing the trendiest clothes, living up to their standards,. they would do all sorts of struggles to to get accepted into society. putting behind their real happiness. Running after approval from others.  But do people really think about what we do, or how we look? or how we're doing? Have you ever thought what if everyone is wondering the same thing? What if everyone's mind is occupied with the same thought? Every human mind works the same way. Everyone is looking for approval. They probably wont even give a second thought

Why is it so difficult to cry sometimes? Why are the people who cry or show emotions considered weak? Sadness is a just as human emotion as happiness. Then why do people take expressing sad emotions as weak? What is this stigma associated with sadness, anxiety and depression? I believe, crying and showing sad and dark emotions is rather brave . And if you happen to find the right person to show them to, you might even b ecome happy. Sadness isn't bad, crying isn’t bad at all pretending to be happy is.  Sadness is just an emotion we feel as a reaction to our treatment by others. Stop putting that happy face on all the time (which takes a lot of inner strength as well). But trust me being vulnerable sometimes feels good. Its good let a few tears roll down your cheeks.  While it might appear difficult to make someone understand your tears, try it. You may find answers, and a true friend who would stick by your side forever. With that, collect someone else

What is fear? According to Cambridge dictionary it is: " An unpleasant emotion or  thought that you have when you are frightened or worried by something dangerous, painful, or bad that is happening or might happen. "  Fear is an important innate human emotion that aims at protecting him from any threat or harm . today humans are afraid of failing at tests , not getting a job and even worse not be able to live a luxury life. Fear of not living a successful life is justifiable but what is this fear of not being good enough? Of n ot doing as good as others. Why are we afraid of such trivial things? It is certainly because our society has programmed our brains this way. Where its has become important to earn in 6 figures annually in order to be seen as successful person and .  Right from the beginning parents start comparing their kids with other kids and put fears in their minds that society won't accept them if they are different or  unsuccessful

What is maturity? the  state  of being  mentally  and  emotionally   well-developed , and  therefore   responsible . When a kid is born, everything is new to him. Every little thing is a new experience. Nothing fails to astonish him. But as years pass he starts to acknowledge things from his past experiences. That is from where maturity begin. He burns himself a few time to know It is dangerous to go near fire or and eating hot food is a big No No.   We humans tend to overlook that phase of maturity. Maturity is a learning process. The more a person experiences. The more he gets mature. Its doesn't have anything to do with age.       "AGE IS JUST A NUMBER" One might say that greater the age more the experiences but that will be a slant as it is different for everyone. Maturity also comes from how a mind reacts to an experience. Two minds may react differently towards the same experience. Where some may learn some good, other may simply rebel.      And minds mou

"Mom, my stomach hurts!"  "My life pains me. Its like the longer I live the more it hurts with every passing day." Pain__A similar sensation____BUT different origin. In medical terms pain is described as: " Pain  is a signal in your nervous system that something may be wrong. It is an unpleasant feeling, such as a prick, tingle, sting, burn, or ache . "   So, in the light of above definition, pain is an indicator of any injury that may have happened to the body. Now, the question is;  But what is the mental pain we go through? The worst kind of pain that has no underlying medical cause? That is overlooked and ignored by everyone. Still we have got to learn to live our difficult lives with it. A life that constantly adds to it.  Lets see what psychology says about it. A  Psychological pain  (aka  mental pain  or  emotional pain)  is an unpleasant feeling of  non-physical (psychological) origin . As kids, we all have very li