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  All your life you kept on believing people hate you. They dont see you worthy. They don't welcome you when you're trying so hard to fit in. When it was not them all along. It was always you who didn't like yourself. YOU, who didn't see yourself worthy.   So you worked twice as hard as others, trying to please others because that was the only way you'd ever please yourself. You thought if you could make people happy, you could be happier yourself. When all it did was cost you your peace and happiness. Giving a piece of you a day everyday gave noting in return but a space so big even a galaxy wont fill in.  BUT was it worth it? Was it worth losing yourself. Because it ended up wounding you  anyways. If anything it cut you even deeper. Hurt you even more. So nobody was happy in the end, not you, not them, noone. You never chose yourself. Never loved yourself. When it always had to be you. You had to love you  you had to choose you. So how were you ever gonna be ha

What's holding you back? A little promise made a long time ago? A promise made by someone who probably doesn't even remember it himself? Someone who has shoved you off the hill a million times for their own convenience. You were there, when they chose to unsee your existence. Oh how it broke your heart, as you watched that once so familiar pass you by. and that little amount of time you felt so far apart. A little tear swimming in the bounds of your eyes, cause you were so afraid of someone seeing it. Your weary heart trying to keep with the erratic breathing of chest. You knew them as much as they claimed you didn't. and you loved them even more than that.  How you longed to go back in the time just to live those little moments full of happiness once again and how you wished to relive them over and over again and how you prayed you could have avoided the situation that ended in them leaving you altogether. How you cursed yourself for all the wrong in you. How much you w

So you say, you loved them and so you wanted to protect it from all the bad that had happened to you. You wanted them to not scar in the spots as you. You didn't want them to shed tears on their pillows every night. But that made you grow, didn't it. Thats what matured you. Thats what made you in the person you are today. And don't you think you would most likely repeat the same mistakes in again, given the chance?   Then why do you think halting someone's most needed experience in the process of growth is loving? Do we all not break our hearts once or twice? Do we all not yearn for something so bad, something that we end up losing? Do we all not get tired every night after a long day of running after things that are never ours? Do we all not cry every night or a night every week or month over the things that made our hearts ache? But then did we not learn from it? Did we not learn how to heal our hearts? Did we not learn how to give up our most precious belongings for

Why Do You Care About What Others Think? Every day there is a constant thought on every person's mind, consciously or unconsciously, how are people perceiving me? How do they perceive me? when someone stares at you hair for too long. you have this constant urge to fix them. when someone tell you we have gained weight you would constantly take a look at ourselves in the mirror.  Any human would do anything to get appraised by others. Wearing the trendiest clothes, living up to their standards,. they would do all sorts of struggles to to get accepted into society. putting behind their real happiness. Running after approval from others.  But do people really think about what we do, or how we look? or how we're doing? Have you ever thought what if everyone is wondering the same thing? What if everyone's mind is occupied with the same thought? Every human mind works the same way. Everyone is looking for approval. They probably wont even give a second thought

Why is it so difficult to cry sometimes? Why are the people who cry or show emotions considered weak? Sadness is a just as human emotion as happiness. Then why do people take expressing sad emotions as weak? What is this stigma associated with sadness, anxiety and depression? I believe, crying and showing sad and dark emotions is rather brave . And if you happen to find the right person to show them to, you might even b ecome happy. Sadness isn't bad, crying isn’t bad at all pretending to be happy is.  Sadness is just an emotion we feel as a reaction to our treatment by others. Stop putting that happy face on all the time (which takes a lot of inner strength as well). But trust me being vulnerable sometimes feels good. Its good let a few tears roll down your cheeks.  While it might appear difficult to make someone understand your tears, try it. You may find answers, and a true friend who would stick by your side forever. With that, collect someone else

What is fear? According to Cambridge dictionary it is: " An unpleasant emotion or  thought that you have when you are frightened or worried by something dangerous, painful, or bad that is happening or might happen. "  Fear is an important innate human emotion that aims at protecting him from any threat or harm . today humans are afraid of failing at tests , not getting a job and even worse not be able to live a luxury life. Fear of not living a successful life is justifiable but what is this fear of not being good enough? Of n ot doing as good as others. Why are we afraid of such trivial things? It is certainly because our society has programmed our brains this way. Where its has become important to earn in 6 figures annually in order to be seen as successful person and .  Right from the beginning parents start comparing their kids with other kids and put fears in their minds that society won't accept them if they are different or  unsuccessful

Does our fam affect our mindset? They say:         "Society moulds a man." We will start by an example of two kids raised in different families. One family is highly protective of the kid and does whatever it requires to make him stop crying. When this kid grows up he will have developed the habit of been taken care of and getting whatever he wishes either by will or by force. Hard-work becomes an obsolete idea.  On the other hand, the other family also takes care of their kid but instead say No when needed. And rewards the kid with an occasional treats when he does something good. In this process, where the kid learns the difference between good and bad , he also learns to work hard .  Now, when these kids grow up and are faced with same problem. Both are gonna react differently . The former is more likely to panic and not know how to handle it while latter more probably will know how to handle the situation .  Kids who aren't prepared for di

What is maturity? the  state  of being  mentally  and  emotionally   well-developed , and  therefore   responsible . When a kid is born, everything is new to him. Every little thing is a new experience. Nothing fails to astonish him. But as years pass he starts to acknowledge things from his past experiences. That is from where maturity begin. He burns himself a few time to know It is dangerous to go near fire or and eating hot food is a big No No.   We humans tend to overlook that phase of maturity. Maturity is a learning process. The more a person experiences. The more he gets mature. Its doesn't have anything to do with age.       "AGE IS JUST A NUMBER" One might say that greater the age more the experiences but that will be a slant as it is different for everyone. Maturity also comes from how a mind reacts to an experience. Two minds may react differently towards the same experience. Where some may learn some good, other may simply rebel.      And minds mou

"Mom, my stomach hurts!"  "My life pains me. Its like the longer I live the more it hurts with every passing day." Pain__A similar sensation____BUT different origin. In medical terms pain is described as: " Pain  is a signal in your nervous system that something may be wrong. It is an unpleasant feeling, such as a prick, tingle, sting, burn, or ache . "   So, in the light of above definition, pain is an indicator of any injury that may have happened to the body. Now, the question is;  But what is the mental pain we go through? The worst kind of pain that has no underlying medical cause? That is overlooked and ignored by everyone. Still we have got to learn to live our difficult lives with it. A life that constantly adds to it.  Lets see what psychology says about it. A  Psychological pain  (aka  mental pain  or  emotional pain)  is an unpleasant feeling of  non-physical (psychological) origin . As kids, we all have very li

A JOURNEY TOWARDS THE LIGHT: S omehow, we have all been through those difficult times when everything seems so  heavy, unmanageable and tiring.  It becomes difficult for us to smile . Life seems nothing but a burden that has to be carried around without any gains. We have everyone around us yet we feel so alone. Nothing seems to bring us pleasure. with every wrong happening we feel like being pushed into that blue world , of fears and cries , more and more. WE ASK OURSELVES: WHY IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME? DOES THIS HAPPEN TO ME ONLY? AM I BEING PSYCHOTIC OR SOMETHING OR WHAT? So the answer is:   NO ,YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE FACING IT NOR ARE YOU BEING PSYCHOTIC ! The  fact is that the world we are living in is just as good and merciful as it seems bad and evil. You just need the right eye to see that. But first of all you need to get rid of these negative emotions. There is no one that can help you out of that depressed and anxious state of mind but YOU. H ere are a few