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  Why do we feel like telling people lies? Why do we create a fake persona we are uncomfortable with? And in order to keep that persona, we keep on losing the things and people who are close to our hearts. But then we move ahead finding new people, people who love us so dearly. But just when we think our life is going smooth, every perfection remids us of the past and we feel like we're stuck in it. Its like no matter how fast we run we can't get rid of it. It has become a part of us. We lowkey wish that this one day we would open our eyes and find out that it was just a bad, bad dream. And you would just flip the coins. And abandon fake for whats real. But would we really do that? If we get the chance of going back into our pasts, will we be to do it? Or the question shall be, can't we do that now? Why can't we really break through the hard shell of fakeness and come out naked with our truths? Why does it have to be wishing for going into the past or future to do that

Did you say yes to a 'little job' again when you were yourself quite busy and didn't wanna upset your friend, but then that little thing turned out to be 2 days worth of a job and made you lag behind on a lot of work? But when you asked the same person you ran an errand for you, seeing that they were free, they denied. Did it hurt you? But is that their fault? NO.  They had every right to put their comfort before everything and so do you! You should also learn to say it sometimes when you need to. In order to please others you somehow lose your individuality and in the process it also normalizes for others to boss you around. And when you have finally had it and say No it is gonna upset them because up until then they would have become accustomed to you agreeing with them. Now, no-one is asking you to be rude and say NO and disagree with whatever you hear. But contradict with fair sense to what is wrong or what you think is right. Or when you thin

Why Do You Care About What Others Think? Every day there is a constant thought on every person's mind, consciously or unconsciously, how are people perceiving me? How do they perceive me? when someone stares at you hair for too long. you have this constant urge to fix them. when someone tell you we have gained weight you would constantly take a look at ourselves in the mirror.  Any human would do anything to get appraised by others. Wearing the trendiest clothes, living up to their standards,. they would do all sorts of struggles to to get accepted into society. putting behind their real happiness. Running after approval from others.  But do people really think about what we do, or how we look? or how we're doing? Have you ever thought what if everyone is wondering the same thing? What if everyone's mind is occupied with the same thought? Every human mind works the same way. Everyone is looking for approval. They probably wont even give a second thought

Why is it so difficult to cry sometimes? Why are the people who cry or show emotions considered weak? Sadness is a just as human emotion as happiness. Then why do people take expressing sad emotions as weak? What is this stigma associated with sadness, anxiety and depression? I believe, crying and showing sad and dark emotions is rather brave . And if you happen to find the right person to show them to, you might even b ecome happy. Sadness isn't bad, crying isn’t bad at all pretending to be happy is.  Sadness is just an emotion we feel as a reaction to our treatment by others. Stop putting that happy face on all the time (which takes a lot of inner strength as well). But trust me being vulnerable sometimes feels good. Its good let a few tears roll down your cheeks.  While it might appear difficult to make someone understand your tears, try it. You may find answers, and a true friend who would stick by your side forever. With that, collect someone else

What is fear? According to Cambridge dictionary it is: " An unpleasant emotion or  thought that you have when you are frightened or worried by something dangerous, painful, or bad that is happening or might happen. "  Fear is an important innate human emotion that aims at protecting him from any threat or harm . today humans are afraid of failing at tests , not getting a job and even worse not be able to live a luxury life. Fear of not living a successful life is justifiable but what is this fear of not being good enough? Of n ot doing as good as others. Why are we afraid of such trivial things? It is certainly because our society has programmed our brains this way. Where its has become important to earn in 6 figures annually in order to be seen as successful person and .  Right from the beginning parents start comparing their kids with other kids and put fears in their minds that society won't accept them if they are different or  unsuccessful

Does our fam affect our mindset? They say:         "Society moulds a man." We will start by an example of two kids raised in different families. One family is highly protective of the kid and does whatever it requires to make him stop crying. When this kid grows up he will have developed the habit of been taken care of and getting whatever he wishes either by will or by force. Hard-work becomes an obsolete idea.  On the other hand, the other family also takes care of their kid but instead say No when needed. And rewards the kid with an occasional treats when he does something good. In this process, where the kid learns the difference between good and bad , he also learns to work hard .  Now, when these kids grow up and are faced with same problem. Both are gonna react differently . The former is more likely to panic and not know how to handle it while latter more probably will know how to handle the situation .  Kids who aren't prepared for di

What is maturity? the  state  of being  mentally  and  emotionally   well-developed , and  therefore   responsible . When a kid is born, everything is new to him. Every little thing is a new experience. Nothing fails to astonish him. But as years pass he starts to acknowledge things from his past experiences. That is from where maturity begin. He burns himself a few time to know It is dangerous to go near fire or and eating hot food is a big No No.   We humans tend to overlook that phase of maturity. Maturity is a learning process. The more a person experiences. The more he gets mature. Its doesn't have anything to do with age.       "AGE IS JUST A NUMBER" One might say that greater the age more the experiences but that will be a slant as it is different for everyone. Maturity also comes from how a mind reacts to an experience. Two minds may react differently towards the same experience. Where some may learn some good, other may simply rebel.      And minds mou