No_ Say it!

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Did you say yes to a 'little job' again when you were yourself quite busy and didn't wanna upset your friend, but then that little thing turned out to be 2 days worth of a job and made you lag behind on a lot of work?

But when you asked the same person you ran an errand for you, seeing that they were free, they denied.
Did it hurt you?

But is that their fault? NO. 

They had every right to put their comfort before everything and so do you!

You should also learn to say it sometimes when you need to. In order to please others you somehow lose your individuality and in the process it also normalizes for others to boss you around. And when you have finally had it and say No it is gonna upset them because up until then they would have become accustomed to you agreeing with them.

Now, no-one is asking you to be rude and say NO and disagree with whatever you hear. But contradict with fair sense to what is wrong or what you think is right. Or when you think you're busy and can't do or attend something at the moment. Say it politely. 

People won't know what you want or what your situation is until you say-so.

Say No. And let them know that you can't or you disagree and if possible tell the whys and whats as well. It will help them grow as well.

Saying No isn't bad at all. Saying Yes, on the other hand, might be. 

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 Xoxo.

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